How to Dance – For Average Guys and Girls
Dancing is an unavoidable aspect of our life. It always comes up at social events; hence you may want to be good enough at it. The fundamentals aren’t as difficult to pick-up as most people may think, it’s a great sailing when you are good at dancing and will most likely score you nice points in numerous situations.
You Don’t Really Have to Be a Pro-Dancer
You really don’t need to be a pro-dancer before you hit the dance floor, just be good enough, get on the floor and mix in with everyone else, don’t look odd, and don’t have this awkward feeling while you are there (So many people feel real embarrassed when it comes to dancing, so they have to get on some couple of drinks while waiting for the dance floor to get occupied before they get on it). You mustn’t be that guy on the music video, just be good enough to get by. It will never hurt to be better than average anyway, but getting the basics gives you a score better than the numerous non-dancers around.
Don’t be so bothered about what the opposite sex thinks
In the real sense, people don’t dance to arouse the opposite sex, but most times people tend to feel concerned about this.
Let’s generalize now. The both sexes have their different philosophy of who a good dancer is. Most often, guys tend to perceive dancing as a show-off skill. They need to be seen as better than the other guys on the dance floor. What they term a “good dance” is a bunch of flicks by a break dancer, or a dude on the dance floor doing some fancy, fluid Popping and Locking routine. Contrary to a guy’s view, the lady sees a good dancer as more of a good enough stepping dude with much confidence and feeling so comfortable and having lots of fun.
If a woman asks for a dance, all she truly needs is:
- You being there with her
- You hitting the dance floor with her
- You are not moving awfully
This truly sounds like another stereotyping, but when you dance with a guy, most times he doesn’t really care about your dancing style, all he cares about is “Yeah! I’m on the dance floor with a girl” and if he watches you dance from a distance, all he’ll probably be thinking is, “She looks great, I’ll like to talk to her. Not so sure if she’ll turn me down.” Though he may seem elegant and real confident, he’ll probably be having same thoughts on some level. He could be a lot more concerned about how you perceive his steps. He could be a great dancer and you are not and yet that just doesn’t matter to him.
The Rumba combination video
Don’t worry too much about what other people think
This is truly demanding, but try as much as possible not to exhaust your mental energy thinking about what people around might be thinking about you. People who are really nervous to hit the dance floor, will normally point out to and laugh at people dancing. Those guys sipping their beer shouldn’t so much bother you. Just like is stated above, an average dancer is more occupied with their appearance than anything else.
Keep this in mind – be toned-down and low key
Don’t lose control and try to turn on some insane moves except you are certain it will make you look great. It’s ideal to get yourself in. Overacting and being tagged ‘that guy’ is far regrettable than being boring and fake. Don’t think you should always show off number of new moves for everyone to see. Just dance in easy repetitive moves and simply appreciate your friends company.
Acquire a basic, reliable dancing ‘core’
Can you recall the last time you watched a TV show or a movie and a scene in the dance club showed on the background how the extras danced in a simple and unremarkable way? That’s what I mean by the ‘core’. If you can comfortably do that, then that could be what is needed to mix in, and further build on that to make your steps more fanciful.
To get the dancing core get in front of a mirror with a not very fast music playing or just read along and envision yourself doing these:
- You have to move along with the rhythm of the music beat. Going out of sync with music beat, is a common mistake made by an average newbie. You can’t imagine the beat I’m talking about? Then put on a music and listen up for the uniformly recurring bang-bang-bang rhythmic pattern. Each style of music has its own pace. It takes nothing special to study how to hear it
- Now you are standing before a mirror with the music banging. Ok, slightly move your arms forward and backward with the rhythm of the beat, with straight, stiff legs. Now the next thing to do is spring on your knees in an up and down motion. While everything else is still, keep moving up and down on your knees to the rhythm of the song playing.
- It still looks ridiculous hopping like a piston-yeah, I know how you feel. Now just like you are skiing, simply rotate your torso timely with the movement of your knees. Relax and free up your torso a bit.
- Now it’s beginning to make sense. But watch your hands still hanging there. Now just slightly relax them and make them swing with your knee movement and the rotation of your torso.
Being on a spot with an upward/downward movement, moving your torso a bit and slightly moving your arms, that’s basically the least thing one would do that could be referred to as dancing. Like I earlier stated, stopping at this level is far better than not knowing how to dance at all.
However, you could also do some little things to spice up your generic ‘core’ pattern of dancing
- In addition to just swinging your hands, now move your shoulders
- Take some forward and backward; side to side steps
- Randomly move the arms
- Rhythmically nod your head to the beat
- Do some twist of one or both feet
- Let your torso move front and back; side to side
- Take up one leg slightly higher than the other, just like a march, but don’t get it too high, simply move your feet a bit
- Randomly mix your torso, arms and leg movements. Take note of an excellent combination you notice and continue on it for some minutes. Don’t keep changing your steps every half a second as it makes your steps seem too complicated and unorganized.
Now don’t think of winning a dance competition yet at this level, but you are as good as the movie extras, and more than half of those you see dancing at the bar. At this level you have attained, you could stop your dancing lectures/classes and still get on well on the dance floor.
A good thing about this ‘core’ level is that it is practicable with most of the common music you’ll normally come by. If it happens you come across a hip-hop beat, just change your movements to flow with the Hip-Hop rhythm. If it’s an 80’s Pop, just add more energy and cheesy to your moves.
Spice up your core
If all you’ve got now is the basic ‘Core’, you’ll be good to go, but you won’t be so outstanding. To add style and class, you can put in some well-packed steps or series of moves. This stage attracts more risk/reward, but you’ve got work to do as well. Generis dancing is cheap and safer. When you tried out some great routine but didn’t get it right, you’ll feel ashamed and clueless. You have to practice religiously, to make you are good at it. Here are many places you could get to learn new steps:
- Getting some dancing moves/ideas from dancers at clubs
- Watching and copying friends steps
- Getting new moves from music videos or movies
- Video tutorials uploaded on the internet
- Playing dance-featured video games
- Trying out some experiments to get some personal steps
- By taking a dance class
Practice makes perfect
If at your leisure you often find yourself dancing to music around in your home, then you’ll get the hang of things pretty soon. After these leisure times, the often you keep up with this, the more you get well refined classic styles.
Put on some nice music on; get in front of the mirror and dance to the music in the basic ‘Core’ way earlier mentioned. If you would naturally jump around, just consciously be a little calm for now. Though the core will make you boring initially, but just keep up with it. Most times on the dance floor, you are restricted by space, so if you have always practiced moves that demand great space, you will be trapped when you find yourself on a crowded dance floor.
A great way to really practice is to try perfecting your moves one after another, after which you harmonize the pieces. It may not make sense initially, but it will in the long run help you get concentrated on some of your specific moves. Now, you could keep other things on a hold while you concentrate on hand or leg movement styles. You could also try out various ways of stepping forth and back or moving a leg one after the other
Try practicing on Different dancing scenarios
Now you have known how to move your body, but the following are various situations you may likely have yourself dancing under:
Dancing on a spacious Dance Floor
Here, you have all the space you could ever ask for, to show off your stuff. At times, the spacious dance floor can even seem too big for you to utilize and make it seem you are too exposed to public glare, which makes some people feel a bit reserved.
Dancing on a crowded dance floor
In this situation, you have restricted movements. So when rehearsing, learn to get your legs firm to the ground, and don’t over swing your arms out. However, still make your movement look great.
Dancing too close with someone else
Here you have your knees knocked and unable to fully stretch out your arms in front of you. Get very close to wall and have an experiment of how it feels. Or you could also try it out in front of your full-length mirror which you use for personal practice. You think it’s ridiculous? Yes, but that will help you to get used to dancing with someone very close.